I can relate to this story too! As my friends can attest, I've had a very similar discussion with them prior to this story breaking.

I love you -- you're perfect -- now scram
Nov 17, 2008

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Originally posted by Inc0gnit0:
I can relate to this story too! As my friends can attest, I've had a very similar discussion with them prior to this story breaking.

I love you -- you're perfect -- now scram
Nov 17, 2008

Good article and I too can relate. I love my husband dearly and couldn't imagine ever being without him. But to be alone at times is a wonderful thing because I do tend to be very independant. Sometimes I think he needs me more than I need him, not that he ever has to worry, I am completely and hopelessly devoted to him.

My parents friends came up with an innovative way to deal with retirement of one spouse or the other. When one retires, the other gets 30 GOMF cards (Get Out of My Face). They get one card a day and, after a month, one card is taken away, leaving 29. The next month, one more card is taken away and so on until all the cards are gone. The retiree would have to obey the GOMF card and get gone. This gives both spouses the ability to slowly deal with the changing realities of having someone you love around so much that you want to kill them.

I was in the grocery store one day and a couple was at the deli counter with me. The woman was waiting for her turn to order and the old guy was telling her how to get the cold-cuts sliced. As he walked away she looked at me and said "For forty years I was smart enough to buy bologna... but now that he's retired, he's realized how wrong I've been doing things like the laundry, vacuuming and shopping". She obviously loved him but, at the same time, probably wished she could whack him upside the head with a shovel.
Ain't love grand?

That is my husband. I love him dearly and worry about his health problems, I try to spoil him and make his life as good as one person can do for another but he does try to tell me how to do the things I have been doing for 46 years just fine by myself. It is irritating.

I guess I'm the odd ball. My DH and I really enjoy being together as much as possible and do not like being apart. On the odd occasion we are away from each other, we don't enjoy it at all. I've always thought we'll be good retirees because we will really like being together all the time.

We're best friends though....I don't have any other person on earth I'd rather be with 24/7.

An independent personality works well for a military spouse!

I love my independence. Celebrate it even! Have had a verbal agreement in place with my hubby since before we got married that I get at least one week a year to myself - no kids, no hubby - but I told him this past summer that I was bumping it to two weeks after 8.5yrs of just "one week vacations"! LOL I get to go where I want. Do what I want. (No cheating and all activities within legal bounds is a non-spoken agreement!!)

But I also enjoy my married life. Hubby and I laugh a lot together (oldest son's biggest complaint of us as a couple? We "laugh too much"!LOL). Love a lot of doing the same things, but are also willing to do things together the other may not be overjoyed with. We're comfortable just "being" too.

Nope. We're not perfect, but perfect for each other!

Everybody needs time apart from the people they love, no matter how much they love them. It is healthy to spend time alone. If a person cannot be alone with themselves and be happy and satisfied with their own company, they are probably not very good company to anyone else. Just my humble opinion.

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Originally posted by glitterbootygirl:
Everybody needs time apart from the people they love, no matter how much they love them. It is healthy to spend time alone. If a person cannot be alone with themselves and be happy and satisfied with their own company, they are probably not very good company to anyone else. Just my humble opinion.

Well said!